Stress! And does cuzing relieve stress?

It can come in so many different forms...stress.  This particular time it was at 4:30 am with a police officer ringing our doorbell vigorously.  What the ((@##$$%#@ was my first thought as I tried to jump out of bed, find my slippers, and get to the front door. None of this went well with ra and 4:30 am.

The officer began to ask if a Deborah lived here. Yes, of course I lived here. He then continued to explain that my 2002 Chevy Prism car was flipped upside down in a ditch on the other side of town.

My blood pressure immediately began to rise. He also continued on, saying that apparently there was a set of keys in the ignition.

Ummm....like I don't leave keys in my ignition!!! And like ummmmm my daughter also doesn't tend to be this careless either. He insisted that there was a set of keys in the ignition.  I immediately suspected that somehow, someway my hubby played a role in that part!

The officer went on to say that it looks like my car was stolen, taken for a joy ride by two inexperienced drivers, run into a curb and then subsequently flipped over and was now lodged against a tree in this ditch.

I was not a happy camper! No, not at all!

My husband then went with one of the police officers to inspect his vehicle which was parked next to mine in our driveway before the theft. Yup, the window was slightly down, the glove compartment rummaged through but nothing was missing.  Nothing, except the extra set of car and house keys (my blood pressure continues to rise) that my hubby had decided to put in his car. And he also left his car unlocked although we have constantly implored him to lock it at all times.  Ummmm...I won't go there on the grounds I might sound mean and cruel. And if I haven't mentioned in a previous post, the only car left for the three of us to share (one that requires a car from 7am-5pm for college every weekday) is a stick shift. Needless to say, only the owner of that car can drive it....grrrrrrr!

Off went my husband to inspect my damaged car and await the towing service that I was to contact.  Now you all know my last name is Murphy. Well Murphy's law is apparently ruling for 2012.

I called our road side assistance service. Quickly they hooked me up with a tow service company here in my home town. Snatchem Towing Service would be there shortly. Yup, Snatchem.

So today, two days later, still with somewhat high blood pressure, still with no car, and still wondering exactly when the repair place will call to let me know if this car is fixable at all. And more importantly realizing I might have to buy two cars instead of the one I was hoping to somehow afford.

And oh yes, we did not have collision or theft insurance on this auto as it was a 2002. And of course Murphy's law would have it...I was intending to add this coverage for over the summer when my daughter was to use this car for her internship.

Maybe the world can go away for awhile. Just a little while...I am soooo tired.

And by the way, cuzing for me only relieves stress when done by a cute fluffy kitty :-)

Croc Pot Recipe....Deconstructed Stuffed Cabbage

I have always loved stuffed cabbage but with ra preparing this dish has just about become impossible. So as usual, my brain began whirring around (yes this can be dangerous as it creates smoke at times) to come up with a crock pot alternative that I could do.

So here goes....my version of stuffed cabbage. Well, actually deconstructed stuffed cabbage.

Your ingredients include: 1 head of cabbage, 1.25 lbs. or one package of lean ground turkey meat (yes you can use hamburger meat if you prefer), 1 handful of rice (I prefer brown but white will do), 1 clove garlic, and 1 bottle of V8 juice (I use low sodium)

After mixing the rice, turkey meat, cut up garlic in a bowl, you form meatballs. Lay these in the bottom of your crock pot or slow cooker. I also add some V8 to the meatball mixture to give them more moisture but you don't have to.

Pour the remaining V8 or all of it on top of the meatballs. Turn on your slow cooker. I put mine on the high mode.  I cooked the meatballs in the V8 for about two hours (on high but if you want to use the low mode you will cook for probably double the time).

Slice and dice up the cabbage. This is the toughest part of this recipe and I am planning on getting sliced cabbage for coleslaw at the grocery store the next time to see if it works. It does have carrots in it but I don't care...more nutrition in my book.

After cooking the meatballs for two hours, I added the diced cabbage on top and cooked for another two hours on high. I am betting you can add it all together but I like my cabbage a tad on the crunchy side and not mushy.

Tada! Deconstructed stuffed cabbage. It tasted just like how I use to make stuffed cabbage and it was alot easier. I am also going to try and just add the meat, rice, and garlic next time without forming the meatballs as they tended to fall apart anyway :-) Now won't that be real simple. Plop in one pot the ingredients and turn on :-) My way of cooking with ra!

How have you modified a recipe to accommodate your ra? Willing to share?

More easy recipes the ABC way:

The Crockpot theory: Tantalizing Turkey Bits

KISS Soup Recipe: I am betting you can use a crockpot for this one

Preparing For A Flare

Having ra requires one to be on top of their game with planning. So often we are left wondering when, where, and how a flare will arise. We might never find definitive answers to the when, where, and how of a flare but rest assured if you have ra, you will get a flare. 

Often a flare can put us out of commission for days on end.  If we are lucky our flare may last for just a few hours or if we aren't so lucky, they can last months.  And this is precisely why planning for a flare is so critical.  We already know that a flare can rob us blind. It can take our happy disposition, it can steal away our determination, it can humble us with pain but it need not completely put you into a stress meltdown with wondering how in the world am I going to do anything with this flare.

* First recognize that at some point you WILL get an ra flare.  Come up with your ra flare plan now. Don't wait until you are in a flare because it is too late at that point.

* If you work, know your employer's sick day policy inside and out.  Try to save these sick days for yourself rather then for your children if you have them.  Ask your husband or wife, if you have one, to take his/her sick days to cover the children when they are sick. This way you have your sick days available for yourself.  I can't tell you how many times when I was working that I took the sick day for our childrens' doctors appointments, dentists appointments, and to be with them when they were sick and had to stay home. And needless to say, when I was in a horrible flare, I was forced to drag myself to work because I had no sick days left.  Another option here, if you are fortunate enough, is to ask the grandparents to step in when the children are sick or need regular medical care. Save those sick days for yourself!  Now in reality some companies will make you forfeit your sick days at the end of their fiscal year. Check your company's policy on this and if they do make you loose your sick days, then as you approach the end of the year, use them up for your own doctor's appointments, etc. First you might as well use them and not loose them and second most health insurance policies also reset deductibles at the onset of a new year. You will kill two birds with one stone by doing this process. Just be sure to schedule your own yearly medical checkups ahead of time. You can always cancel them if you must push them off.

* Talk with your doctor AHEAD of time about what you should do when you experience a flare. Ask them specifically what medication you can take for the flare, how do you reach them if it is urgent (and yes this includes weekends and after regular office hours).  Ask them if they will be willing to call in a prescription for pain medication when you are in a flare or will you have to come into their office and ask them what their course of treatment will be to help you overcome this flare.  I DO NOT like the practice of an ra patient having to drag themselves into their doctors office when they are in a horrific flare. That to me is just cruel and unusual punishment.  If your doctor is not willing to tell you now what they will do for your flare when you should get one, ask why they will not come up with a plan. If they still give you lip or phoo phoo you off, find another doctor and do so now. Your main objective is to stay employed and it is their job to help you do just this! And please tell them I said exactly that :-)

* Stock up on whatever it is that will help you to manage the flare. This includes: any OTC medication that your doctor suggests, ice and hot packs to use on your joints, a heating pad, loose clothing that is appropriate for work (or if you aren't working comfortable for around the house), very comfortable shoes,  a hair style that you can do when your arms don't work right and supports for your joints if these help you. For my most recent bad man flare (sorry guys) I wore a jogging outfit. And I mean I wore it to bed also. This saved me from changing into pjs and allowed me only one change of cloths per day. I wasn't going outside anyway and my jogging cloths are loose, comfy and presentable should I get that unexpected knock at the door.

* Have a backup plan on how you will get to work if you must. Can your husband drive you if your flare is to bad to drive?  Can you car pool for a few days with another co-worker? Or the best case scenario, can you work from home?  If you have one of those employers that you feel comfortable with and they already know about your ra, asking if working from home might be an option depending on the type of job you do. Or perhaps you could work part time for a few days until you get over the flare. The main point here is to think ahead and plan on paper what you would do if you had a bad flare. Ask yourself how would I get to work if I couldn't drive?

* Have a backup person to cover your children. I am hoping, if you are a parent, that you already have this segment of the ra flare plan in place. And if you don't, you should. In my case, I commuted to work and had my neighbor as my backup plan should my children get sick and needed to be picked up from school. You will need to put this person (I suggest at least two back up people) on the emergency contact list at your children's school.  I was fortunate in one respect that my husband and I worked different hours so getting my youngest off to school rested on his shoulders while picking her up rested on my older son's shoulders. But I still had two other people on my contact list….just in case.  Having a back up person to help you with your children during a flare is critical. First, if you must drag yourself to work, chances are you will be exhausted once you come home. See if this backup person might not keep your children for a few hours after you get home from work. Or in the case of those that don't work, ask if they can meet the bus or pick the kids up from school. Or maybe they could come to your house, help cook the dinner, get the kids their baths and read them that nighttime story.  This way you can rest when you come home from work or continue to rest if you don't work. Flares require lots of rest as we all know.

* Forget the cleaning. It can all wait for another day. If by chance your flare does stretch on for a few weeks or months, call in a housekeeper or ask a friend or family member for cleaning help. Just imagine now who you might rely on for this help and put them on your ra flare plan contact list.

* If you aren't the type that is making multiple meals at once and freezing them, get yourself a list of food delivery places and keep it current.  This IS the time to order in food or have your husband pick up food on the way home if he doesn't like to cook.  I am all for home cooked meals but when one is in a flare, working, and trying to juggle childcare, cooking is the last thing you should have to worry about.  If you happen to be a member of a church, sometimes they have support groups that will step up and bring home cooked meals to those in need. Churches can be a wonderful support family in times of need.

* Plan for animal care as well.  If you have a dog, who will walk the dog two-three times a day? If you have a kitty, who will clean the litter box daily?  Just asking yourself these questions now will get the planning juices flowing.

Planning for an ra flare is like planning for a disaster.  Put your plan in writing, keep it current, and know which direction you will take to help yourself or who you will turn to manage the difficult tasks that must get done while in an ra flare.

I would love to know if you already have an ra flare plan and if you do, what is it?  How do you plan on handling your next ra flare?

Additional reading:

The ABC's of Preparing for Hurricane RA

The ABC's of RA Pain Management: Let the Games Begin!

Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho It's Off to Work We Go: Part 1

Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho, It's Off to Work We Go: Part 2

How to Play with RA